Are you one of those people who look in the mirror one morning and realize that your love life is on the rocks–again? Glancing back through my own memory bank, I can tell you from personal experience that it’s no fun to be in this space!
When you realize something isn’t working, it’s a good idea to step back and look at what you might be doing to sabotage the joy in those failed relationships.
I think of the sardonic quote that reminds me that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again—and expecting a different result ‘this time’! When I’m looking in the mirror—reluctantly—I must admit that this makes sense.
So what am I doing wrong??
Well, this may take some sorting out with a trusted therapist. Relationships can be pretty complex.
But in the meantime here is something for you to chew on.
There is no greater block to intimacy than insisting that you are always right!
Can you think back over some of the rough spots in your relationship and recall times when you have made it very clear that ‘it’s my way or the highway’?? Alas! Insisting that things have to be your way—you must be the one in the relationship who is in control—is a sure block to those warm and cozy times with your love that you dream about.
There is more to this story. Stay tuned! Looking for love doesn’t automatically put your love life on the rocks!